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Brotherhood Hidden In Tragedy


So, I recently attended one of the most hurtful events in a firefighters career.  The loss of another coworker.  Although it hurt to be there, I needed to be there.  We all needed to be there, showing support to our comrade, their family, and our fire service.

It was one of the most inspirational days I have ever had the privilege of living.  We had one of the best services I have ever been to.  Firemen from all over the state came to pay their respects and take part in the processional that basically shut our city down. The amount of overwhelming support was astonishing. The brotherhood was there, and it was very invigorating.

IMG_2757This was true caring and compassion.  All gripes aside, everyone checked their ego and personal opinions at the door.  The guys were all talking it up, making sure each other was handling this OK, shared a pint at the local watering hole, and shared stories from years past.  Old retirees came by to shed a few laughs.

One question I did have to ask myself was, “Why isn’t the brotherhood always like this?”

So I ask you…Why is it hidden in tragedy?

It sucks to see it happen this way, as it should be shared daily, rather than only when there are conventions or when we are at funerals? I wish this type of caring and compassion was an everyday occurrence.  We need to treat each other right, and we need to be involved in each other’s lives, whether in hardship or not. We claim to always “be there”, but are we always putting our money where our mouth is?

I ask each and every one of you to just keep this thought in the back of your head.  Are we taking care of others the way we would like to be taken care of? Are we spreading our knowledge and education onto the younger generation? This profession is a constant job interview.  Show integrity in yourself, your department, and the career and make the fire service better than how you found it. Go out there, and get involved in what this career is all about. BROTHERHOOD.

– The “Irons”

About Ron Givens (15 Articles)
Ron Givens is a 5th generation firefighter with 14 years on the job. Ron started as a Jr. Firefighter in Union Beach, NJ in 2002 before relocating. Ron currently holds the rank of Engineer/Paramedic with the South Trail Fire District in Ft. Myers, Fl. Ron is also a Division Chief with the Upper Captiva Fire Department on North Captiva Island. Ron is a Fire Officer I, Instructor 2, Live Fire Instructor, and holds an A.S. Degree in Fire Science from Edison State College. Ron is a proud member of the Florida Gulf Coast F.O.O.L.S and IAFF Local 1826. Ron co-founded the fire training page entitled “Shut Up And Train” (SUAT), and looks forward to sharing his knowledge and experience with others on Station-Pride. EBGH – RFB – FTM – DTRT

2 Comments on Brotherhood Hidden In Tragedy

  1. This is a great article. And I would have to agree a lot of younger firefighters don’t understand the meaning of the Brotherhood. Lets not let it die. Sorry for your loss as well God Speed.

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  2. dave hendrich // November 30, 2016 at 9:08 pm // Reply

    We had a buddy from a neighboring Dept comic suicide a cpl months ago . It was terible. But in my department we had a guy quit because of ptsd. He is talked about very badly by Alot of the guys. I guess it just depends on if you are on the good list or the bad list. To me we should all be brothers union or not volunteer or paid but I guess that is a perfect world. If we talk about being brothers shouldn’t we try to be brothers?


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